Perhaps we shouldn’t use the word “dating.” I have to wonder how other women feel in this world, but we might as well be slutting it up in the local bar for all the good online dating is (NO slut shaming, by the way. There’s nothing wrong with being a slut). But maybe some women don’t want to be treated like an object solely for the purpose of a penis.
Why do men objectify women on these sites? Pretty much every time someone starts talking to me there, it quickly turns to sex. Or, it’s sexual straight from the beginning. I don’t appreciate it, and it’s not wanted. Then they go from sex talk to “let’s meet up.” Umm, no thanks asshole. “Casual sex” is not listed on my profile as something I’m looking for. So why do all these men assume that they can speak to me this way?
I can’t help but feel like this ruins the experience of talking to other people. Are they playing a game and talking like a normal person just to get in my pants? I’m not even looking for anything special, just people to talk to, but I’m starting to wonder if it’s even worth it. Wading through the bullshit isn’t worth my time, even if there are genuine people there.
I’ve seen from other people that women get treated pretty horribly on dating websites. Why do we put up with it? Shouldn’t we demand respect? Yes, I am a feminist, as much baggage as that word has. I believe in equal treatment of all humans. While we are creatures of a sexual nature, every person still demands respect and dignity. That also means not sending dick pics when it’s not wanted or asked for, guys.
I felt like I had more to say about this, but maybe I’ll leave it short and not so sweet: don’t act like a fucking jerk on dating sites, and stop treating women like disposable garbage.
Honey & Chocolate 